So it’s here, Christmas is literally around the corner so I thought I’d keep this blog reasonably short and just share with you something that caught my eye earlier this year.
A few months ago I read the book The Curious Incident of the Dog in the Night-Time. I found it on the bookshelf and picked it up because I had heard good things regarding it and also knew off it due to the stage production. Don’t worry, i’m not going to give you a book report but there was something at the end of the book that caught my eye, and it was this:
“…..I will get a First Class Honours Degree and I will become a scientist. And I know I can do this because I went to London on my own, and because I solved the mystery of Who Killed Wellington? ……and I was brave and I wrote a book and that means I can do anything.”
Break the Habit
These words are from the main character in the book, Christopher, who’s 15 years old and he has Asperger’s Syndrome. These words caught my eye because a lot of the time I hear people say “I can’t”. When you say “I can’t’ you are tending to focus on the things which hold you back from doing what you want to do rather than on the things that mean you can achieve what you want. In a way, it’s just a bad habit and like all habits they can be broken. So to break this habit, rather than focusing on the aspects of your life which reinforce why you can’t achieve what you want, start to think about the things which you’ve done or achieved which mean you can. For example, like Christopher in the book, he didn’t focus on the things which could have prevented him from solving the mystery of Who Killed Wellington, like potentially his Aspergers Syndrome, instead his focus was on what he had achieved which to him meant he could go on and solve the murder and beyond (I don’t want to spoil the book for you if you haven’t read it) and because he did all that, to him that meant he could go onto to do anything.
“Believe you can and you’re halfway there”.
What do you do? Do you focus on the things which mean “I can” or do you focus on the things that mean “I can’t”? Do your thoughts drive you forwards to achieve what you want or hold you back by reinforcing thoughts that you might fail if you try?. Think about what you want to achieve, this year or next, then find things from your past that mean you can achieve those things. It could be anything, big or small. For example, in the book Christopher went to London on his own, which for him was a big achievement and he did that because he thought about something he had done previously which helped him believe he could do it.
Connect the Dots
In a way it’s like connecting the dots, connect what you have done in the past to help you achieve what you want in the future. By doing this, you are reinforcing within yourself that you can achieve it, whatever ‘it’ may be. Like Theodore Roosevelt said, “believe you can and you’re halfway there”.
Speaking of quotes, a few years ago I came across something Audrey Hepburn said, and it was this:
“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!”
That stuck with me and I believe it to be true, the only limitations we have are the ones we create for ourselves, get rid of those limitations and anything becomes possible. So what is it you want to achieve?
I Can Do Anything…
Get into the habit of focussing on the thoughts which will help you achieve what you want rather than the thoughts that wont, for example “I did that and that means I can do this”.
“Change your thoughts and you change your world”.
Norman Vincent Peale
Sometimes it can be hard to change your thoughts, if you find yourself struggling to change the way you think to a more positive perspective, lets have a conversation to see how I can help you make 2016 a ‘I Can Do Anything’ year.
MERRY CHRISTMAS AND A HAPPY NEW YEAR