It’s strange how you can almost smell the changing of the seasons, the other day I was outside and I commented to myself how I could smell ‘autumn’ in the air…then the hottest day of the year happened! Gotta love the British weather. The changing of the seasons is inevitable, just like change in our own lives. But do you welcome change or resist it?
Who Moved My Cheese……
I read a book recently called Who Moved My Cheese? by Dr Spencer Johnson. It’s a great little story about 4 characters who live in a maze and look for cheese to nourish them and make them happy. The story is a metaphor for what you want in life and where you look for it. It’s all about change; anticipating it, adapting to it and enjoying it. The story helps you learn how to deal with change, so you can enjoy more success and suffer less stress.
Before I read this book I thought I accepted change and adapted to it quite well, I believed I’d always dealt with it quite well and viewed it as an adventure and something to embrace and accept. Then after reading this book I realised there was one area of my life I hadn’t accepted things had changed, and it was causing me anxiety. Even more to my surprise I didn’t even realise this was going on, it was only after reading this book did I get a ‘light bulb’ moment and it became clear to me what was happening. I have to admit it was a bit of a shock because I’d always thought I embraced and welcomed change, and there it was starring me in the face, and I just didn’t see it. Talk about things best hidden are in plain sight!
Do You Accept or Fight Change?
So how do you view change? Do you accept it’s part of life, like the changing of the seasons or fight it, and try and keep things the same? As humans go, we tend to be creatures of habit and for some, change can be a bit of a shock. For me, the shock came when I realised I hadn’t accepted a change had occurred, or even acknowledged it….and for someone who loves change, that was a shock.
We are all different and each of us either accept or fight change on our own unique scale. But are you fighting change where, like the changing of the seasons, it’s just part of life and it’s out of your control? Is it causing you feelings of anxiety or unease?
How Much Have You Changed?
If you think back over the course of your life, how different are you now compared with say…10 or 15 years ago? Change can happen so subtly we don’t see it happening, until we look back and see the difference, within ourselves and our circumstances. So even if you think or feel you aren’t good at accepting change, you may surprise yourself…. look back and see how many changes you’ve navigated throughout your life so far.
A Change is as Good as a Rest….
I believe change is a good thing, as Winston Churchill Said:
” A change is as good as a rest”
I put this quote to use on a regular basis, if I’m doing something and I get stuck in a rut or I find I’m getting distracted. I change what I’m doing to something else and then go back to it later.
Change occurs on all levels from leaving a piece of work and going back to it later, to a change in life circumstances, like a new addition to your family or a death of a loved one. Sometimes change occurs because of a decision we’ve made or we have no control over it. But what is in our control, regardless of how the change comes about, is how we deal with it. We have a choice to accept and embrace the change or fight it and resist it. If you fight and resist it, it could cause you anxiety and worry.
How Do You View Change…?
What do you do? Are you fighting change or accepting it? Is there an area of your life your’re scared to change because it’s easier to stay where you are? If you have a moment, either now or later, think about if there is an area in your life where you could be resisting change – like I was, and what it is you could do about that to help you keep moving forward and not get stuck in a rut and resist change.
We always have a choice; to accept that change occurs and deal with it the best we can or fight and resist it. Even just accepting that change has occurred can help you deal with it, I found that; by acknowledging that a change had occurred and things were different in my life, and I couldn’t keep in the same mindset as I had done previously, helped me ease the anxiety I was feeling.
If you are finding it hard to deal with change or a change in your life, feel free to contact me to find out how I can help you adapt and deal with change.